Husband, Honor Your Wife


Husband, Honor Your Wife


Tuesday, September 26, 2017


Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered. (1 Peter 3:7 NKJV)


In today’s society, we do not see any arranged marriage anymore. Though we may think that it is weird to marry someone we do not know and yet most of the arranged marriage last “till death do us part.” In the arranged marriage both husband and wife know their role in the marriage; they honor and respect one another, one of the most important things to be done in the marriage. Marriage does not only involve the two persons (husband and wife) who commit themselves to one another and to remain faithful till death do us part, but there is also God who blessed the marriage that they may become one as husband and wife.


There are three important points in the quoted verse above that we are going to learn. First, to dwell with your wife with understanding, then give honor to her and lastly that your prayers may not be hindered. To dwell with your wife with understanding takes a mutual submission. Submitting to your wife, in this case, does not mean that you submit to her as your leader but to subordinate your needs to hers. In other words, you put her needs before yours. “Understanding” your wife means to be sensitive to her emotional and physical needs, of which the husband needs to be thoughtful and respectful to her needs.


Now, giving honor to her, what does it suppose to mean? Giving honor to her means to regard her with great respect for our wives are not an “object”, they are not an “it” to fulfill the lust. It is wrong to think, what is it that I get out of this marriage but instead think what is it that I need to put into this marriage that may bring glory to His name. The most crucial question every husband needs to ask himself is do I treat my wife with great respect? Do we call our wives names? Do we belittle our wives? Should husbands not suppose to be a godly man being the head of the family?


What is it that we watch behind her back? Some husbands may have watched or continue watching inappropriate movies in front of their wives, isn’t it disrespectful? And still some watch inappropriate movies with their male friends and they are making fun of women while watching those inappropriate movies, are they not telling their friends that they disrespect their own wives, the mother of their own children? Do they forget their vows “I will cherish you”, “I will be faithful to you as long as I live” “I will respect and honor you”…” till death do us part.”


The Scripture in Matthew 5:27-28 says, 27 “You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery. 28 But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Is it a new set of laws? No, Jesus did not make a new set of laws or tried to make the laws harder for people. Instead, Jesus was trying to make His audience understand that the actual problems resided in the heart of man and not in the outward behavior. Since the problem lies deep in the heart of man, man needs the Holy Spirit to transform his heart that he may be set free (it takes man to let the Holy Spirit transform his heart) and live his life as a man that God created or redeemed him to be.


The Bible clearly tells us in the quoted verse above that there is a consequence as a result of disrespecting our wives and that consequence is that our prayers will be hindered. And Isaiah 59:2 also says that if we choose to live in sin, God will hide His face from us and He will not hear our prayers. In conclusion, the power of prayer does not lie in the one that prays but in the One that answers our prayers. How can He answer our prayers if we disrespect our wives if we choose to live in sin for the One that answers our prayers hide His face because of our sins? Amen!


Harry Lee


Restoration Christian Church

1900 South Santa Anita Ave.

Arcadia, CA 91006